Addressing Separation Anxiety: Training Techniques that Work

Today, I want to talk about a tough topic for our dogs. It's also heart-wrenching for us as owners: separation anxiety. Many of us know the pain of leaving our furry friends at home. We return home to find chewed-up furniture. Neighbors complain about barking. The dog is emotionally worn out. If this sounds familiar, don’t worry. You're not alone. There are effective ways to help your dog feel more comfortable when you’re away.

​Understanding Separation Anxiety

Separation anxiety is a condition in which a dog experiences extreme distress when left alone. It's more than just whining or mischief. Dogs with separation anxiety can become destructive, noisy, and try to escape. Understanding why dogs develop this condition is the first step in addressing it.
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Dogs are pack animals, and they thrive on social bonds. An overly attached dog may feel abandoned when left alone. This triggers panic. The panic can lead to behaviors like chewing furniture and scratching doors. Dogs may bark and howl, and even urinate or defecate indoors.

​The Importance of Addressing Separation Anxiety

Addressing separation anxiety is crucial. It is key for your dog's well-being and for your peace of mind. A dog with separation anxiety is not just an inconvenience. They're in genuine distress. Also, this problem can strain the human-dog bond. It can cause property damage and even lead to rehoming if not managed well.

Start with the Basics
Before getting into specific techniques, you must build trust and security. Ensure your dog has a safe, comfortable space where they feel secure. This could be a crate, a specific room, or a cozy corner with their favorite bed and toys. Consistent routines also help dogs feel more secure.

​Step-by-Step Guide to Addressing Separation Anxiety

Step 1: Gradual Desensitization

Gradual desensitization involves slowly getting your dog used to being alone. Start with very short absences. Then, increase the time as your dog gets more comfortable.

Example: Begin by leaving your dog alone for just a few minutes. Praise and reward them if they remain calm. Slowly extend the duration of your absences over days or weeks. The goal is to make leaving and returning a non-event.

Step 2: Practice Short Departures and Returns

Practicing short departures and returns helps your dog learn. It shows that you always come back. This reduces their anxiety about being left alone.

Example: Leave your dog for a few seconds, then return and greet them calmly. Repeat this several times a day, gradually increasing the time you’re away. Make sure your departures and arrivals are low-key to avoid heightening their anxiety.

Step 3: Create Positive Associations

Make leaving a good thing for your dog. Give them a treat when you go. This could be a special treat or a favorite toy that they only get when you’re not around.

Example: Use a treat-dispensing toy filled with peanut butter or kibble. Give this to your dog right before you leave. This distraction can keep them busy. It can create a good association with your departure.

Step 4: Avoid Emotional Departures and Arrivals

It’s natural to want to shower your dog with love before leaving and when you return. However, making a big fuss can increase their anxiety. Instead, keep departures and arrivals calm and low-key.

Before leaving, pat your dog and say "goodbye" calmly. Then, leave without more interaction. When you return, wait a few minutes before greeting your dog, and do so in a calm manner.

Step 5: Use Calming Aids

​There are various calming aids available that can help reduce your dog’s anxiety. These include pheromone diffusers, calming collars, and supplements. While these are not a cure, they can be a helpful addition to your training efforts.

A pheromone diffuser releases calming scents. The scents mimic those made by nursing mother dogs. These can help create a more relaxed environment for your dog.

Step 6: Engage in Regular Exercise and Mental Stimulation

​A tired dog is a calm dog. Making sure your dog gets lots of exercise and mental stimulation can reduce anxiety. Engage in regular play sessions, walks, and training exercises.

Example: Take your dog for a brisk walk or play a game of fetch before you leave. Puzzle toys and interactive games can also keep their mind engaged while you’re away.

​Common Challenges and Solutions

Challenge: My Dog Panics as Soon as I Leave

If your dog panics right away when you leave, you may need to break down desensitization even more. Start with leaving the room for just a few seconds and gradually build up from there.

Challenge: My Dog is Destructive When Left Alone

If your dog is destructive when left alone, put them in a safe space. They cannot harm themselves or your things. Crate training can be beneficial if your dog sees the crate as a safe, comfortable space.

​A Personal Success Story

Let me share a success story from Clever Canine Dog Training. Emily is a teacher. Her Border Collie, Charlie, has severe separation anxiety. She came to us about it. Every time Emily left the house, Charlie would bark nonstop. He would also chew on furniture and try to escape. Emily was at her wit’s end, worried about Charlie’s well-being and the impact on her neighbors.

We started with gradual desensitization. We practiced short departures and made Emily's absences have good associations. Emily also used calming aids, like a pheromone diffuser. She also gave Charlie plenty of exercise before leaving.

​One day, Emily had to leave for an unexpected appointment. She was gone for two hours. When she returned, she found Charlie calmly chewing on his treat-dispensing toy. The house was intact. Emily was overjoyed and relieved. Charlie’s progress continued. Now, he can stay calm for long absences.

​Building a Fortress

Think of addressing separation anxiety like building a fortress for your dog. It starts with a strong foundation of trust and security. Each training session adds a layer of protection. They gradually make the fortress more secure. Over time, your dog feels safe and cozy. They know that their fortress (your home) is a secure place, even when you’re not around.

​Final Thoughts

Addressing separation anxiety requires patience, consistency, and understanding. You can help your dog feel more secure and reduce their anxiety. Do this by gradually getting them used to your absences. Create positive links. Also, keep a calm environment.
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At Clever Canine Dog Training, we’re here to support you every step of the way. If your dog has separation anxiety or you need personalized help, reach out. Together, we can help your dog become a calm and confident companion.

Happy training!

Mandy Majchrzak
Owner and Head Trainer
Clever Canine Dog Training