How to Teach Your Dog to Relax on Command

Today, I want to talk about one of the most valuable skills you can teach your dog: how to relax on command. A calm dog is a happy dog. Knowing how to calm your furry friend can be a game-changer. It helps in many situations, from vet visits to noisy family gatherings. Let’s dive into the steps to teach your dog this essential skill.

​Why Teach Relaxation?

Before we get into the how, let’s talk about the why. Teaching your dog to relax on command isn’t just about having a calm pet; it’s about enhancing their quality of life. A dog that can relax on cue is less stressed, less anxious, and more adaptable to new situations. It’s like having a personal off-switch for your dog’s nervous energy.

​Step 1: Creating a Calm Environment

Imagine trying to meditate in the middle of a rock concert. Not easy, right? The same goes for your dog.
Start by creating a calm, quiet environment for training. Choose a spot in your home where your dog feels safe and comfortable, away from distractions.

Max, a lively Golden Retriever, had a hard time winding down. His owners were John and Lisa. They struggled with his boundless energy, especially at family dinners. We created a “calm corner” for Max—a cozy spot with his favorite blanket and a few toys. This corner became his sanctuary, a place where he could start learning to relax.

​Step 2: Use a Cue Word

Choose a simple cue word or phrase, like “relax” or “settle.” Consistency is key, so use the same word every time. Your dog will start associating this word with the act of calming down.
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Think of your cue word as a magic spell. Just like "Abracadabra" makes things happen in fairy tales. Your cue word will signal your dog to relax.

​Step 3: Teach a Relaxing Position

A comfortable position is crucial for relaxation. The most common position is lying down. If your dog doesn’t know how to lie down on command, start with this basic training.

1. Hold a treat close to your dog’s nose.
   
2. Slowly move the treat towards the ground.
   
3. As your dog follows the treat and lies down, say “down” and give the treat.
   

Once your dog is proficient at lying down, you can introduce the cue word for relaxation.

​Step 4: Pair the Cue with the Position

Now that your dog is familiar with the relaxation position, it’s time to pair it with the cue word.

1. Ask your dog to lie down.
   
2. Once your dog is lying down, softly say “relax.”
   
3. Reward your dog with a treat and gentle praise.
   

Repeat this process several times. Do it until your dog gets that “relax” means to lie down and stay calm.

​Step 5: Extend the Duration

​Your dog might initially only stay relaxed for a few seconds. Gradually increase the duration by rewarding your dog for staying calm longer.
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Think of this like building stamina for a marathon. You wouldn’t run 26 miles on your first day of training. Start small and gradually increase the challenge.

Step 6: Add Distractions

Once your dog can relax in a calm environment, it’s time to introduce distractions. Start small and gradually increase the difficulty.

1. Practice relaxation in different rooms.
2. Add mild distractions, like a family member walking by.
3. Gradually increase the level of distraction. Do this by, for example, turning on the TV or practicing outside.

​Step 7: Practice Regularly

Consistency is key. Practice the relaxation command daily, and incorporate it into your routine. Use it before meals, during quiet time, or whenever your dog needs to calm down.

​Bella, a high-energy Border Collie, lived in a bustling household with three kids. Her owners, Mark and Jenna, found it challenging to keep her calm. She practiced the relax command daily. This taught Bella to calm down in chaos. Now, family dinners are peaceful, and Bella’s stress levels have significantly decreased.

​Troubleshooting Common Issues

Issue: My Dog Won’t Stay Relaxed

If your dog struggles to stay relaxed, make sure you’re not progressing too quickly. Go back to the basics and gradually increase the difficulty.

Issue: My Dog Gets Up When I Move

If your dog gets up when you move, practice moving around while your dog is in the relaxed position. Start with small movements and gradually increase the distance.

Issue: My Dog Ignores the Cue

​If your dog ignores the cue, reinforce the association between the cue and the position. Use high-value treats and ensure you’re practicing in a distraction-free environment.

​The Benefits of a Relaxed Dog

• Reduces Stress and Anxiety. A calm dog is less likely to have stress-related behaviors, like too much barking or chewing.
  
• Improves Focus: A calm dog can focus better during training sessions, making learning more efficient.
  
• Enhances Socialization: A dog that can relax on command is more adaptable in social situations, from vet visits to park outings.
  
• Strengthens the Bond: Teaching relaxation strengthens the bond between you and your dog, as it involves trust and cooperation.
  

Final Thoughts

Teaching your dog to relax on command is a valuable skill. It improves their life and your relationship with them. You can help your dog learn to relax. Do this by creating a calm place. Use a consistent cue word. Practice regularly. Remember, patience and consistency are key. With time and practice, your dog will learn to relax. This will lead to a happier, healthier life.

​If you need additional guidance or support, Clever Canine Dog Training is here to help. Together, we can make training a positive and rewarding experience for both you and your dog.

Happy training!

Mandy Majchrzak
Owner and Head Trainer
​Clever Canine Dog Training